Step 2 - Reading

Am I cheating on my boyfriend?

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Assignment 1

Softlips:
I fell in love with my boyfriends best friend

well what can i say..my bf and i are very distant from one another since he's gone back to school..so to pass time and enjoy life i would hang with his best friend. we would go have coffee, movies, we'd talk to each other 3-4 times a day, we'd even go clubing together...now i have fallen for him, and hes not a dumb guy i think he knows...but now things with my bf arnt the best...he seems jealous, and i dont want to let his best friend go....i know that if me and my boyfriend were to break up...i'd loose what i have with his friend...so how do i have my cake and east it too??

Tony T:
If my reading comprehension is correct....

OK now, if my reading comprehension is correct, what you said is that you are basically in love...of have fallen for...your boyfriend's best friend. Then you say your boyfriend, who is a distance away, is a bit jealous and upset now...I wonder why? Then you complete your statement by implying that you need to stay with the boyfriend who's a bit jealous and upset because if you break up with him it will screw things up between you and his best friend, who you have fallen for. OK, fine!

That's the most goofy reason for staying with a boyfriend I have ever heard of in my life and the first time I've seen something like this in reading well over 10,000 posts on this forum in the last three years.
I am more dumbfounded than you are. Best of luck to you!

Softlips:
thanks for your reply...ok yes i do sound very dumb...however what i neglected to mention was that it was my bf who pushed him to take me out and keep me busy...and like wise my bf would tell me when i'm board i should call his buddy. the way i see it...my man had no time for me and his buddy wasnt in school wasnt working...therfore he found someone to pawn me off to...and because we started spending time together...there were things that i loved about him that my bf just couldnt give me...i hope that makes more sense....i look forward to some more of your blunt advise...thanks

also...what would you do..i love my man...and i love his best friend....so right off the bat things musnt be that great with my bf for me to fall for another guy..but do stay in a dead end relationship and have some sort of happieness with his budy(on the down low)...or do i end the dead end relationship..and loose both....you see they will always be friends....their loyalties lie to each other...so what do i do

Tony T:
Now, I understand a LOT better.....

When people supply important details, it changes things a LOT!!!

First, if your boyfriend is not meeting your emotional and other needs that you consider important to you...and he is so bold to turn you over to someone else to get you off his back...he's not worth keeping for another minute. Dump him, get rid of him, end it immediately. You don't need to be in a relationship where you are relegated in importance to that of some household pet.

Source: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/18914-fell-love-my-boyfriends-best-friend